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In 2009, there are now more ways for couples to get together than ever before—online dating, speed dates, chat rooms, blogs, etc. Yet, with all the new ways and technologies available to help singles meet, it has also made it that much easier to break up with the person you are casually dating. And with all due respect and copyright to Seinfeld’s George Costanza, you don’t need the “it’s not you, it’s me” to get out of a relationship.

Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together Dating–one of the world’s largest brick-and-mortar dating services with more than 60 offices nationwide—has paired thousands of clients during more than 35 years in business. He has also seen more than his fair share of matches not go the distance as well. So, is breaking up with somebody easier now?

Said Falzone, “Yes. Though it’s really not about being easier as much as being up front with people. If you have invested time and money in a dating service or online account, you generally have a pretty good idea about what you want. If dating somebody for a short period doesn’t produce that, most people feel they owe it to themselves to end things and that makes it easier to be direct and say ‘I don’t see this going anywhere’ instead of using a lame excuse.”

Continued Falzone, “Does that mean breaking up with somebody doesn’t hurt. Not at all. Even if you look at it intellectually, it is still a form of rejection, even on a smaller level. So, even though you may have met online and agree, you still should be sensitive to the other person.”

Here are some guidelines Falzone recommends in ending things amiably:

* Stay away from “it’s not you, it’s me” and other clichés – Most people will take the “it’s not you, it’s me” as “it’s all you”. So, just do not use it. If you are not feeling the relationship is going or can go anywhere, just say that. It leaves you both with your dignity.
* Avoid e-mail and text – Sure, it is easier and safer and spares you the hurt look you might see. Do not do it. Even if you write a polite and courteous note, think about how you would feel receiving it—especially in that form.
* Do not say you will call or stay in touch if you will not – Really, all that’s left to say is it was nice meeting you (if it actually was) and best of luck. Unless you really want to remain friends.
* Remain on the high road, even after you break up – Don’t bad mouth or talk derogatively about some one you broke up with to friends, family or other people you know whose paths that person might cross. Even if it was things about his or her personality you did not like, it truly will become about you if you are trashing them after the breakup.
* Be honest but diplomatic – Being honest does not mean being unkind. Remember the old motto, if you cannot say something nice…

Said Falzone, “What you absolutely don’t want to do in any breakup situation is play the blame game. Because in actually, when you decide to breakup with somebody, it really is more about you than the other person. And that is okay to be a little selfish. It’s all part of finding the right one for you, which is a good thing.”

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Catering to more than 300,000 members at more than 60 locations throughout North America, The Right One and Together Dating are the largest brick and mortar dating services in the industry, offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and added value of flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.

Romantic Locations

North American locations and affiliates of Together are located in: Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Carmel, Mishawaka); Kentucky (Louisville); Louisiana (Metairie); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Edina); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); Pennsylvania (Harrisburg);Ohio (Cincinnati); South Carolina (Greenville); Texas (San Antonio) and Virginia (Falls Church).

The Right One’s offices and affiliates located throughout the United States include: California (San Diego); Colorado (Glendale); Georgia (Atlanta); Illinois (Chicago, Downers Grove, Rockford and Normal); Massachusetts (Norwell, Newton Center, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Jersey (Cherry Hill); Nevada (Las Vegas); New York (Manhattan); Pennsylvania (King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); Texas (Dallas and Austin); Utah (Salt Lake City); and Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton, Elm Grove).

Singles Station Dating Company, an affiliate of The Right One and Together Dating, is the largest independently owned personal introduction service in the Southwest. In the last 25 years, Singles Station has introduced more than 100,000 couples and is responsible for thousands of successful relationships and marriages. Singles Station Dating Co. has offices conveniently located in Oklahoma (Oklahoma City and Tulsa), Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith and Little Rock), Tennessee (Memphis and Nashville), Missouri (Springfield and St. Louis) and will be opening soon in Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City). For more information about Singles Station, please visit www.singlesstation.com or call 866-807-LOVE(5683).

For more information about Together Dating and The Right One, please visit their websites at www.togetherdating.com and www.therightone.com, or call (800) 818-DATE (3283).

Getting from First Call to First Date

Dating Expert Shares Tips for that First Conversation

DATELINE: NORWELL, MA…So, you met someone and managed to snag a phone number. How do you close the deal to make that first date?

According to Paul A. Falzone, CEO of the world’s largest bricks and mortar dating service The Right One and Together Dating, “Even in the wake of texting, IM, email and chat rooms, there is no substitute for the first phone conversation. It is still a must to hold a ‘live’ conversation, as opposed to a technological exchange with someone you may want to get to know better. And, what transpires during that first call will likely open the door to that first date.”

Although we’re in the age of technology, phone conversations are a must. Hearing the other person’s voice on the phone allows you to process more information about that person. Not only are you listening to what they say, but how they say it.

Falzone continued, “Imagine making a date with someone via IM only to find out when you meet in person that his/her laugh and mannerisms freak you out because they are too much like your ex’s?”

How do you ensure that first call will lead to that first date? Falzone advises you to follow a few simple rules:

Call when you say you are going to call. Nothing is more aggravating than expecting a call only to receive it three days later at a highly inopportune time.

Try to relax. Both of you may be nervous during the first conversation and it’s okay to admit it. Be yourself and don’t try to put on airs or act mysterious. Remember, this is someone whom you’d like to get to know better and a potential relationship in the making.

Avoid TMI. Don’t share too much information too soon. Whether you’re dissatisfied with your job; your parents are driving you crazy; you’re dirt poor; you’re living like a rock star or you haven’t had sex in a while – keep it all to yourself.

Topics that should be explored include your interests, politics, recent vacations or events you’ve enjoyed, movies, music, food, pets, books and so on. There’s a variety of “safe” topics to discuss, essentially guaranteeing your call will be a success and lead to a first date, and a positive one at that.

Timing is everything. So you’re shy and feel much more comfortable sending email than talking on the phone, but you know you must make that first call. Even though you may not want to talk on the phone, don’t end the call too quickly. Try to conduct at least a five to 10 minute conversation. For those of you who have no problem chatting it up, respect the other person’s time and don’t keep him/her on the phone for hours. If you’re hitting it off that well, make arrangements for a date and continue your conversation in person.

Close the deal. You’ve enjoyed your phone conversation, now it’s time to take it to the next step by making plans for a date.

“If you can be yourself, and be confident in who you are, a successful first call will lead to that first date – and love will eventually come knocking on your door,” noted Falzone.

Help is on the way
Catering to more than 300,000 members at more than 60 locations throughout North America, The Right One and Together Dating are the largest brick and mortar dating services in the industry, offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and added value of flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.

Romantic Locations

North American locations and affiliates of Together are located in: Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Carmel); Kentucky (Louisville); Louisiana (Metairie); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Edina); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); Ohio (Cincinnati); South Carolina (Greenville); Texas (San Antonio and Austin) and Virginia (Falls Church); Pennsylvania (Harrisburg).

The Right One’s offices and affiliates located throughout the United States include: California (San Diego); Colorado (Glendale); Georgia (Atlanta); Illinois (Downers Grove, Rockford Normal and Chicago); Massachusetts (Norwell, Newton Center, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Jersey (Cherry Hill); New York (NYC); Nevada (Las Vegas); Pennsylvania (King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); Texas (Dallas); Utah (Salt Lake City); and Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton, Elm Grove).

Singles Station Dating Company, an affiliate of The Right One and Together Dating, is the largest independently owned personal introduction service in the Southwest. In the last 25 years, Singles Station has introduced more than 100,000 couples and is responsible for thousands of successful relationships and marriages. Singles Station Dating Co. has offices conveniently located in Oklahoma (Oklahoma City and Tulsa), Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith and Little Rock), Tennessee (Memphis and Nashville), Missouri (Springfield and St. Louis) and will be opening soon in Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City). For more information about Singles Station, please visit www.singlesstation.com or call 866-807-LOVE(5683).

For more information about Together Dating and The Right One, please visit their websites at www.togetherdating.com and www.therightone.com, or call (800) 818-DATE (3283).

NORWELL, MASS…After a messy break-up with your significant other months ago, your best friend finally talked you into joining an online dating service. Now that you’ve registered, completed a brief questionnaire and submitted your most recent photo, you’re excited about meeting someone new.

At first glance, you’re impressed with the profiles of several attractive, successful singles. But, what your friend failed to tell you is that what you see online, isn’t always what you get in person.

According to Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together Dating, the largest brick-and-mortar dating service in the world, “Online dating sites are used by the honest and dishonest alike. Men and women use the anonymity of the Web to lie about their age, appearance, name and even gender. For example, cheating spouses will use online dating sites to hook up with someone when they go out of town. It’s important to be aware of the perils of online dating before you get burned.”

Falzone alerts online daters of the red flags which signal potential dates to avoid:

R U free 2nite? The “texter” who has a few seconds to send text messages, but is always too busy or not available to actually chat on the phone or via email. This type likes communication to be kept to a minimum, unless s/he initiates it. Dates are often made and cancelled at the last minute with a variety of excuses used. S/he is often out of town a lot and inaccessible. These are common signs of someone who is not single and/or not being honest with you. Move on. You can do much better.

Beauty or beast? Beware of dishonesty through photo misrepresentation. Note that a good profile usually provides more than one photo of that person. If the photo looks too professional, chances are, it is – and perhaps even “borrowed” from somewhere else. And yes, there are people who deliberately post their high school photo from 15 years ago to attract your interest.

Think you hit the jackpot when you get a nice response with a good-looking photo? One of the ways competing online dating sites draw you in is by responding to you with profiles of “beautiful people” from another dating site. After you’ve clicked over to that site and signed up to meet that gorgeous creature, oftentimes you’ll find they don’t even exist. Save your time and money by responding to those who are members of your dating site.

Little lies. So you recently arranged to meet that single, 6’4”, trim and muscular, brown-haired former college basketball captain whom you found online. Upon meeting in person, you find out that the only thing true in his description of himself was his hair color. Some believe that telling “little lies” on their profile with regard to a couple inches in height or a couple pounds in weight won’t matter. Be aware that those who misrepresent themselves on the “little things” may have no problem lying about “bigger things” such as their marital status and age. Don’t settle for what you read in a profile. Verify the information they have offered by asking about their age, relationship status, height and weight. They may refuse to answer your questions or they may provide different information. Or, everything may measure up. Regardless, you’ll have a better idea of that person’s honesty and whether or not you really want to meet him/her.

The “put down”. Avoid the online profile that disrespects and rips an ex-lover to shreds or simply informs you of those aspects s/he doesn’t want in a date. For example, “looking for someone without issues – unlike my fat, drunk ex.” Or, “if you’re needy, jealous and selfish, look elsewhere”. These are profiles that signal potential anger issues. Statements such as these come from someone who has recently ended a relationship or is emotionally scarred from a past relationship and really not happy. Leave them be. You don’t need to be their sounding board or rebound date. They’re not ready to date now and won’t be until they can move on.

Help is on the way
Catering to more than 300,000 members at more than 60 locations throughout North America, The Right One and Together Dating are the largest brick and mortar dating services in the industry, offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and added value of flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.

Romantic Locations

North American locations and affiliates of Together are located in: Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Carmel); Kentucky (Louisville); Louisiana (Metairie); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Edina); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); Ohio (Cincinnati); South Carolina (Greenville); Texas (San Antonio and Austin) and Virginia (Falls Church); Pennsylvania (Harrisburg).

The Right One’s offices and affiliates located throughout the United States include: California (San Diego); Colorado (Glendale); Georgia (Atlanta); Illinois (Downers Grove, Rockford Normal and Chicago); Massachusetts (Norwell, Newton Center, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Jersey (Cherry Hill); Nevada (Las Vegas); Pennsylvania (King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); Texas (Dallas); Utah (Salt Lake City); and Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton, Elm Grove).

Singles Station Dating Company, an affiliate of The Right One and Together Dating, is the largest independently owned personal introduction service in the Southwest. In the last 25 years, Singles Station has introduced more than 100,000 couples and is responsible for thousands of successful relationships and marriages. Singles Station Dating Co. has offices conveniently located in Oklahoma (Oklahoma City and Tulsa), Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith and Little Rock), Tennessee (Memphis and Nashville), Missouri (Springfield and St. Louis) and will be opening soon in Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City). For more information about Singles Station, please visit www.singlesstation.com or call 866-807-LOVE(5683).

For more information about Together Dating and The Right One, please visit their websites at www.togetherdating.com and www.therightone.com, or call (800) 818-DATE (3283).