Archive for July, 2009
Master Matchmaker discloses how to diffuse the “I love you” bomb
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CONTACT: Steven V. Dubin, (781) 582-1061, sdubin@prworkzone.com
Master Matchmaker discloses how to diffuse the “I love you” bomb.
DATELINE: NORWELL, MA…
In the new romantic comedy (500) Days of Summer, Joseph Gordon Levitt’s character finds himself in a place you want to be in a relationship. You know, when that new person you’ve been seeing touches your heart in a way where those three words—I love you—suddenly seep into your consciousness. The only question is, “does he or she feel the same way?” And do you risk losing what you’ve got by invoking those three small words into your relationship?
Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together Dating–one of the world’s largest brick-and-mortar dating services with more than 60 offices nationwide—has paired thousands of clients during more than 35 years in business. He also has a few thoughts on when you should and should not say “I love you.”
“Well, on your way to the restaurant on your first date might be too soon and the night you celebrate your one-year anniversary is probably a bit late,” said Falzone. “Seriously, the key really is not when you say it, but that you’re really sure you feel it. Because let’s face it, saying those three words will change your current relationship one way or the other. So it’s important to have your thoughts together rather than just blurting it out.”
Falzone recommends:
• Writing out a list of why you love the person you’re seeing. Include the reasons why, not just that you do.
• Ask yourself honestly if this is a relationship you want to take to that next level. Allow yourself to daydream a little bit about where you think it could go.
• Write your boy/girlfriend a love letter stating your feeling for them. Include the three words in their just to see how it feels. You don’t have to send it.
• Practice saying it in the mirror. It may sound silly, but when the time comes you’ll want to look your beloved in the eye and deliver your ‘I love you’ with confidence.
• Hope for the best, but plan for the worst: no response or ‘I don’t love you’. Sure, you want to think positive, but it is possible that the other person may not feel the same. Or that they might not be in the same place right now.
Adds Falzone, “The most important thing is you want the moment you tell somebody you love them to be special. So, plan a special dinner, take them to the site of where you met, buy a bottle of champagne, you name it. If he or she reciprocates, you’ll want to celebrate. “
And what if he or she doesn’t reciprocate?
“Obviously, that’s not the preferred answer, but by making an effort to make the moment special, you do earn that person’s respect if not their love,” said Falzone. “And you can most definitely hold your head high for having the courage to listen to your heart and make your feelings known. That’s really the only way you will find your true love.”
Help is on the way
Catering to more than 300,000 members at more than 60 locations throughout North America, The Right One and Together Dating are the largest brick and mortar dating services in the industry, offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and added value of flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.
Romantic Locations
North American locations and affiliates of Together are located in: Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Carmel, Mishawaka); Kentucky (Louisville); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Edina); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); Pennsylvania (Harrisburg);Ohio (Cincinnati); South Carolina (Greenville); Texas (San Antonio) and Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond).
The Right One’s offices and affiliates located throughout the United States include: California (San Diego); Colorado (Glendale); Georgia (Atlanta); Illinois (Chicago, Downers Grove, Rockford and Normal); Massachusetts (Norwell, Newton Center, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Jersey (Cherry Hill); Nevada (Las Vegas); New York (Manhattan); Pennsylvania (King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); Texas (Dallas and Austin); Utah (Salt Lake City); and Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton, Elm Grove).
Singles Station Dating Company, an affiliate of The Right One and Together Dating, is the largest independently owned personal introduction service in the Southwest. In the last 25 years, Singles Station has introduced more than 100,000 couples and is responsible for thousands of successful relationships and marriages. Singles Station Dating Co. has offices conveniently located in Oklahoma (Oklahoma City and Tulsa), Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith and Little Rock), Tennessee (Memphis and Nashville), Missouri (Springfield and St. Louis) and will be opening soon in Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City). For more information about Singles Station, please visit www.singlesstation.com or call 866-807-LOVE(5683).
For more information about Together Dating and The Right One, please visit their websites at www.togetherdating.com and www.therightone.com, or call (800) 818-DATE (3283).
A pre-date contract, really? How getting it in writing can lead to the altar
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CONTACT: Steven V. Dubin, (781) 582-1061, sdubin@prworkzone.com
A pre-date contract, really? How getting it in writing can lead to the altar
DATELINE: NORWELL, MA…
We’ve all heard about pre-nuptial agreements, but a pre-date agreement? Why would you need one? What’s in it? Is it legally binding? Are people really making their dates sign one prior to going out?
More than a mere trend, pre-date agreements have become more commonplace in recent years. While not legally binding documents, these agreements do put in writing the expectations people have of the other person going into the date, during the date and in the aftermath. Not surprisingly, laying your cards on the table and letting the person you’re dating know you’re serious has many beneficial results.
The Right One and Together Dating, one of the world’s largest brick-and-mortar dating services with more than 60 offices nationwide, doesn’t require its clients to sign a pre-date agreement. Yet you can count CEO Paul A. Falzone as a support of pre-date agreements.
Said Falzone, “Most people’s initial reaction to a pre-date contract is ‘what about romance?’ and ‘doesn’t a written agreement get in the way of chemistry?’. The truth is a pre-date contract acts like a checklist for yourself to make sure you’re in a good place to begin a relationship. If anything, it’s pretty healthy way to go about it.”
So what terms can you find in a pre-date contract? Some things to include:
- Punctuality – arriving on time and ending at a reasonable hour
- Attire – agree on type of attire prior to date (casual, business casual); bathing and other hygienic measures prior to date mandatory.
- Terms of discussion – agree to not talk about exes and the big three (sex, politics and religion); also no complaining about work, the weather, etc.
- Physical contact – keep it to a minimum; friendly pecks on the cheeks or abbreviated hugs are acceptable; spending the night, not so much.
- Alcoholic intake – with respect to the above bullet, stick to a one drink per hour maximum.
- Paying the bill – as equal partners in this first date, split the bill evenly.
- Honest post date feedback – agree to provide your date with an honest appraisal of the outing within a 24-to-48-hour time period.
“Most things in a pre-date agreement are fairly common sense. Yet there’s something about putting these things in writing that make you think about what it is you’re doing,” said Falzone. “That’s not a bad thing. In fact, once both people know the expectations and the ground rules, it makes it easier to enjoy the date and let the relationship begin or end.”
Help is on the way
Catering to more than 300,000 members at more than 60 locations throughout North America, The Right One and Together Dating are the largest brick and mortar dating services in the industry, offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and added value of flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.
Romantic Locations
North American locations and affiliates of Together are located in: Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Carmel, Mishawaka); Kentucky (Louisville); Louisiana (Metairie); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Edina); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); Pennsylvania (Harrisburg);Ohio (Cincinnati); South Carolina (Greenville); Texas (San Antonio) and Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond).
The Right One’s offices and affiliates located throughout the United States include: California (San Diego); Colorado (Glendale); Georgia (Atlanta); Illinois (Chicago, Downers Grove, Normal, Rockford and Schaumburg); Massachusetts (Norwell, Newton Center, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Jersey (Cherry Hill); Nevada (Las Vegas); New York (NYC); Pennsylvania (King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); Texas (Dallas and Austin); Utah (Salt Lake City); and Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton, Elm Grove).
Singles Station Dating Company, an affiliate of The Right One and Together Dating, is the largest independently owned personal introduction service in the Southwest. In the last 25 years, Singles Station has introduced more than 100,000 couples and is responsible for thousands of successful relationships and marriages. Singles Station Dating Co. has offices conveniently located in Oklahoma (Oklahoma City and Tulsa), Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith and Little Rock), Tennessee (Memphis and Nashville), Missouri (Springfield and St. Louis) and will be opening soon in Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City). For more information about Singles Station, please visit www.singlesstation.com or call 866-807-LOVE(5683).
For more information about Together Dating and The Right One, please visit their websites at www.togetherdating.com and www.therightone.com, or call (800) 818-DATE (3283).